The main issue that many couples and families tell me that brings them to counselling is a failure of communication: they just don’t feel they’re getting their message across, the other person can’t see their point of view, and they see things differently. It’s not that they’re not trying to communicate, not talking to each […]
Let’s talk (and listen) better: Communication in relationships Read More »
There are huge industries based on selling us the idea that there’s something wrong with us and by following their plan, buying their product, and reading their book, we’re going to find the solution to all our problems and enable us to live happily ever after. How many anti-ageing products are sold on the promise
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People often start relationship counselling with a whole list of things their partner is doing wrong: she does this, he does that, they always…, if only they’d change then the relationship would be better and so on. Many can be reluctant to accept their part in the problem, especially with issues like infidelity, and just
It’s not you, it’s us – working on relationship issues Read More »
So many of us suffer from a low opinion of ourselves, criticising ourselves, feeling needy and insecure in our relationships, and struggling with anxiety. These feelings might originate from our earliest experiences when we felt insecure at home or school and absorbed negative messages from those around us. We can be aware of how we
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It wouldn’t be exaggerating to say we’re living through extraordinary times; our normal everyday lives have been shaken up and we don’t know what they are going to look like once the crisis has passed. The lockdown has produced a surge in cases of domestic violence and divorce lawyers are predicting an increase in splits
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Anxiety – that horrible feeling when your brain won’t stop buzzing, when your jaw is clenched, your palms sticky, and your heart is beating so quickly that it feels like it might come out of your chest. We can’t stop worrying and can stop going out to do things we enjoy. Anxiety can take over our
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We can spend large parts of our lives surrounded by people who might become our friends – at school, college, or uni – but what do you do when you’re an adult and finding yourself feeling isolated? You might move to another part of the country, for work or because of a relationship, and leave
I don’t want to be lonely! Making friends as an adult Read More »
We seem to find it so easy to criticise ourselves and so difficult to say something nice. Make a mistake, or even imagining we have done something wrong, will spark off those endless negative voices in our heads but most of us seem to struggle to acknowledge when we have done something well. Often
I don’t believe me – turning off the negative voices Read More »